In January I said “no” to renewing my board term with an organization and with a group of colleagues that I absolutely love. I have served on this board for seven years in a collaborative engagement that has enriched my life immeasurably. Why did I say “no” then?
When I checked in with myself, I realized that the quality of my presence and my energy were waning for this particular engagement. I couldn’t go on pretending that my enthusiasm was at a high. It was time to make a clear decision, to take a stand in response to what I felt in my center. It was time to say NO.
Saying NO, I released stagnating energy and made room for a new or deepening YES to what calls me into my future. In taking care of myself, I also serve the organization by creating a place for someone else’s YES.
When we choose to live in integrity, our actions are aligned with what we know to be true in our hearts, mind, and gut. I notice that checking in and listening to ourselves and our deep knowing take practice. For we may have unwittingly been in a practice of overriding what we know deeply to be true.
Take a deep breath, feel your belly expand. Allow your breath to extend your energy up and out, like the branches of a tree. On your exhale, drop your attention to your center. Inhale and exhale again. Gently ask yourself the question: What it is time to say no to?
Give yourself permission to hear, sense and experience what it is time to say “no” to, so that you invite a more powerful YES.